Crying is certainly a universal experience and it happens to all people to shed at least a few tears in some situations. Some of us cry very little, others considerably more, others may have some real crying fits, perhaps for no apparent reason and disconnected from external events. In these cases, crying can break out suddenly and can be uncontrollable; besides not understanding the reason why we cry, we can’t even stop. These crying fits can be triggered almost unexpectedly and unexpectedly, or after experiencing anxiety, distress, a lump in the stomach or throat. These are generally crying in which tears flow abundantly, also accompanied by sobbing, moaning and obviously a feeling of deep sadness.
Crying is a phenomenon that, although widespread, it is not yet fully clarified, just as it is not known why some people cry less and others cry easy. Often crying is one relief valve which helps to release tension and after a crying fit you feel better. It can cry alone but crying can also be a tool for communicating your emotional condition to others and showing your feelings to the people around you. It is no coincidence that it is difficult to cry in front of people with whom you do not have intimacy or do not feel comfortable showing your emotions openly.
People cry on average from one to ten times a month: adult men settle around twice a month, while adult women cry about three to four times a month. Women therefore tend to cry more frequently, feel moved or experience crying fits more than men.
A possible cause of crying fits could therefore be linked to hormone production and the different hormonal balance that exists between one individual and another. As for the difference between men and women, for example, women have higher levels of prolactin, a hormone that can promote crying, while in men testosterone is higher which, on the contrary, can inhibit crying.
Hormones determine a large part of the body’s functions and their levels can influence a wide range of biological processes. The levels of the different hormones are in turn influenced by stress, sleep, drug therapies, therefore their fluctuations can cause sudden and uncontrollable crying attacks. Precisely because of hormonal fluctuations, women during pregnancy or close to menstruation they tend to be moved or to cry more, with joy or feelings of discouragement. Crying crises in pregnancy can also be facilitated by seeing your body change, by the stress of preparing for birth, and by anxieties and fears for the future and for change.
Behind the crying spells, however, there are not only hormonal changes but they can hide mood disturbances more or less serious. Frequent, sudden, and uncontrollable crying can be a reaction to excessive stress. Stress is a normal reaction of the body to daily commitments and serves to keep mind and body alert and ready to face everyday life. However, excessive stress can lead to anxiety, a condition that does not allow you to live your days fully and satisfactorily. In fact, anxiety makes you feel agitated, not very concentrated, tense and lead to the development of exaggerated fears and worries, sleep and digestive problems and crying fits. Anxiety in fact makes you feel tired and with little energy and at the same time disturbs sleep. In such a situation it is easy to get to exhaustion, with more intense and frequent crying fits.
Another condition that leads to crying fits is undoubtedly the depression. Being depressed does not mean being sad: it is a disease that is diagnosed by a doctor and that determines a series of more or less mild symptoms, depending on whether you suffer from mild depression or major depression. In addition to anxiety, irritability and poor concentration, depression leads to apathy, lack of interest even in pleasant things, recurring thoughts of death or suicide, changes in appetite and sleep. If you are afraid of suffering from depression it is essential contact a psychotherapist without thinking that everything can pass spontaneously: given that the majority of depressed people have great improvements thanks to the treatments, it is better not to wait and talk about it as soon as possible.
Finally, another cause of crying fits can be the bipolar disordera condition that, however, leads to the development of other more serious symptoms such as hallucinations, extreme and unpredictable mood swings in which moments or periods of great energy alternate with moments and periods of deep despair and sadness.
What to do to calm down
As we have seen, the possible causes of crying fits can be different and very different from each other. For evaluate why you cry Suddenly and uncontrollably it is therefore necessary to evaluate your situation as objectively as possible, asking yourself and analyzing the feelings that accompany the crisis, what happens before and after, how often it happens and if you have other symptoms besides crying. If you are unable to understand the origin of your crying fits or are unable to assess any other symptoms, a consultation with a specialist can certainly help to clarify.
But what to do in the meantime, when you find yourself crying and can’t stop? The first thing to do is to breath deeply, inhaling for about three seconds and exhaling for another three. This helps to slow the heartbeat, calm the storm of emotions and consequently also the tears. At this point you can drink a glass of water and try to relax the body: while sitting or lying down, the muscles of the head, neck, face and then the whole body loosen from shoulders to feet, literally letting go.
These small tricks they can be enough to calm down when you can’t stop crying but the crisis could return very soon after, so it’s not enough. To get rid of negative thoughts and emotions, you should be distracted, even simply thinking about something trivial or a funny episode. It seems impossible, yet after a crying fit it’s not difficult smile or laugh, resize thoughts and emotions and relax. But beware of do not underestimate the possible causes that trigger crying: to solve the problem definitively or in any case lasting, it is necessary to analyze the reasons behind it and work on that. Excessive stress, fatigue, anxiety, depression, and other situations need to be addressed in order to be well and stop having crying fits.